Sufficiently Destabilized

There is a necessary light that is only available through darkness, the darkness that comes in those liminal spaces of birth, death and suffering… There are certain truths that can be known only if we are sufficiently emptied, sufficiently ready, sufficiently confused or sufficiently destabilized.

Things Hidden
By Richard Rohr, OFM
Page 126

And let me tell you… sufficiently any-of-those is not too fun.

Great Question

I have just come through being sufficiently destabilized. In fact, I’m going to title this chapter in life as The Great Destabilization. At least for now, the earth beneath my feet has temporarily stopped moving. And I am Oh! so grateful.

But the place I now stand is foreign. All of the previous familiarity has been shaken away.

All in all, it was a good cleansing. What needed to go is gone. In its place appeared consolation which gave way to a deep peaceful glow in my soul. The pain is relieved and the future feels bright with possibility and promise.

What does destabilization look like, you ask? Great question.

It’s when all of your plans get knocked off-kilter by unexpected encounters. When the electricity in your spirit blows a breaker and you fumble around looking for a candle that isn’t there. When so much chaos gets thrown at you but you don’t how to juggle twenty different things at the same time.

Destabilization happens when you surrender your will to God.

Change Can Be Good

Whether it comes unexpectedly or you invite it intentionally, destabilization is dangerous. It changes everything. But change can be good. If we seek to make it good.

Destabilization has taught me some great lessons of late.

A degree doesn’t change the world. People do.

It’s not necessary to try and tame chaos.

Eventually the answers do come.

Small towns heal deep wounds.

Art isn’t art unless it’s shipped.

Too many options = Not shipping.

Yep. In that order.

The Roundabout Way

A great quote to end this musing:

God did not let them take the direct road, although that was the nearest way… God led the people by the roundabout way of the wilderness.

Exodus 13:17-18

Apparently, there was a quicker way but… it probably wouldn’t have been as much fun.

Addendum: If you look that verse up online you will likely find another translation that adds this line…

For God said, “If they face war, they might change their minds and return…”


If you knew what was coming, would you turn back?


About Elaine Menardi

Heading off on a new adventure! I solve problems and make ideas happen.

4 responses »

  1. Ronald of Richmond says:

    One of your meaningful blogs

    • Those lessons were written with you in mind.
      A degree doesn’t change the world… it is an option that results in not shipping.
      I’m going to choose to ship my art.
      Peace and love!

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